Have you just been through a breakup? Do you want to know the best way to get your ex girlfriend back? You’re in luck, because I’m about to reveal the single most powerful thing you can do to get your ex girlfriend back.

Before we begin, you need to understand WHY she left in the first place. You might THINK you know the reason, but you’re about discover the one thing 90% of men never learn.

Before you keep reading, you need to see this video. It’s on a page for the best selling ebook The Magic Of Making Up. It will tell you exactly what to do after your breakup to make sure you don’t make things worse.

Most men make things worse right after a breakup by calling, texting, begging, etc. This video will reveal what you need to do to get your girlfriend second guessing her leaving you. Watch it here.

So, first you need to realize that women (most of the time) don’t just up and leave the man they are with for no reason. Things usually have been getting worse for a while and then culminate with an affair or a breakup.

So why did your girlfriend really leave you? Was it because you said she looked fat in the dress? You forgot her anniversary?

Nope. The two main reasons she left you are a lack of intimacy and lack of communication. Most problems in relationships can be traced back to these two root issues.

Now that you understand why she left, you are in a position to win her back. Chances are you still love each other and want things to be the way they were, but it seems impossible. The good news is it’s not. If you both have a desire to save the relationship it can be done.

One of the most effective things you can do to rekindle the love in your relationship is learn the love language of your partner. Everyone expresses love in different ways, and if you don’t express it in the way your partner is used to, they won’t reciprocate. For instance, Rachael loves getting texts throughout the week from her boyfriend telling her that he is thinking of her. She associates these “words of affirmation” with love. She feels wanted and special.

Women associate love with one of 5 languages: words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, acts of service and physical touch. You need to find what your girlfriend’s love language is and speak to her in it.

How can you do this? Pay attention to the way she expresses love to you. If she loves to touch you (on your hand, back, holding hands, etc) “physical touch” is most likely the way she expresses love. As soon as you find this emotional hot button of hers, you can literally push it whenever you want and she will go crazy. Try it!

If you can do this, you will see an immediate change in the way she acts towards you and your relationship willimprove drastically. If you are wondering why your girlfriend left it is most likely because you weren’t speaking her love language! You were giving her gifts when what she REALLY wanted was to spend 15 min a day talking to you. Find her language and you will have an amazing new control you didn’t have before.

I know what you’re thinking: “Thanks Ryan, but I already lost my girl, it’s too late for all that.”

Not true. You don’t want to start giving her all these gifts right after the breakup, but understanding the way she communicates love is crucial to getting her back.

If you are really serious about getting her back in your arms, I suggest The Magic Of Making Up. You can see a free preview of what you’ll learn on his web page here (make sure you watch the video.)

Good luck. Look below for related articles and other powerful tips.

Are you having trouble eating? Sleeping? Going throughout your day without thinking about your ex? Do you lay in bed night after night wondering what went wrong, what happened and why you split up with your boyfriend or girlfriend?

Do you feel like everything you do pushes your love away? Does it feel like everything you try just makes your situation worse? Do you ask yourself what can I do to get you ex back?

You are serious about saving your relationship right?  We know how you feel. But don’t worry, things are not hopeless.

Here are some great tips that will help improve your chances of getting back together with your ex.

Before you finish reading this article, you’re going to want to read this. This 6 page PDF is an excerpt from the best selling book Magic of Making Up. If you want to know why your girlfriend or boyfriend left you this free PDF will tell you why.

Here’s that link again: Free Magic of Making Up Download.

Let’s begin.

SO, you are probably feeling over anxious, stressed, depressed and listening to all your old love songs. That is all natural, but unfortunately this may be the reason your ex is pulling away. It is simply human nature to resist that kind of pressure. To quote the Good Book, you are just “kicking against the pricks” – in this case fighting human nature and it’s just going to make things worse.

You might be calling your ex too much, text messaging her, emailing him excessively, etc. etc., and trying to make them feel sorry for you. Now, if you’re doing ANY of this, stop immediately.

So take a deep breath…and relax.

You want to “get your ex back”? OK, try this.

You’re going to try a completely fresh approach. Start off by breaking off all contact for a while, and do your own thing.

That’s right, leave your ex alone for a while. During this time you won’t have any communication between your ex, and you can focus on other things.

Like ways to improve yourself rather than trying to fix the relationship itself.

This is going to be really tough for you and its going to require some discipline to prevent you from picking up that phone and sending that message, or IMing him/her.

Now, here is the good part – you’re not making all this sacrifice for nothing! While you are taking this break, your ex is going to experience a change in how he/she feels about you. You will become mysterious in a way,because your ex isn’t sure what you’re doing or feeling.

This is great, because now he is in position to actually MISS you, which wasn’t possible when you were smothering him.

Does that make sense?

You have to remember that the key to this strategy and fixing a break up is to work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you started reading this wondering “What can I do to get my ex back” we hope that you have a better understanding of what not to do, and how to start to fix the situation.

Once you implement this basic and surprisingly effective strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex to remember why he/she loved you in the first place.

For a great video that will tell you exactly what to do right after a breakup to get you started on the right foot, click here. This will also work great if you have already tried smothering your ex and want a clean start. Click here to see the video. (The video is right at the top of the site “Magic of Making Up.”)

Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering him/her. You can play a little hard to get (don’t over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out on top.

If you haven’t downloaded that PDF yet, what are you waiting for? Download it here.

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The pain, hurt and suffering during a break up can sometimes be unbearable, but what happens if after you split up your ex begins to show a little more interest?

Sometimes after a break up, your ex might begin to show a little interest in you, or more desire to go out and spend time with you than normal. You might even notice that your ex is flirting with you a little bit. If this is the case, it’s all right to be a little hopeful, but be careful not to jump to conclusions.

So the question is, “does my ex want to get back with me?”

The above are common signs that your ex is interested in getting back together. However even if you are thinking of getting back together with your ex, you don’t want to take things too fast. Your best course of action is to play a little hard to get (within reason), which is the what your ex will respond to best.

Before you read on, you should take a look at this site here. There is a short video right near the top that has some great tips on what to do after a break up. The beggining is a little slow, but this guy has some really good advice.

Now, if you just jump right back into things, you will see your ex pushing right back with equal force. Funny thing is, if your ex is showing signs that he/she is interested, it was probably playing hard to get that got them interested in the first place.

When you break up with someone, or they break up with you, it is completely natural to miss one another – a longing to get back together. This is even more true when you’ve been dating more than a year. The absence of someone close to you is somewhat like having withdrawls.

You’re going to miss each other no matter what because of the memories you both created during your relationship. There are also other thoughts that may come to your mind as well, like past regrets or things you wish you would have done differently. If you are wondering if your ex wants to get back with you, chances are they are thinking the same thing, for the same reasons.

Be careful! Often when an ex shows some interest following a break up, it is a game to them. They may see that you still love/are interested in them and they love getting the attention without the commitment.

So watch out. Unless your ex seems genuinely interested in spending quality time with you, they may just be with you because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And sometimes they may be using your attention to get back at you for some perceived wrong. This is why it is so important that you don’t jump the gun when thinking about getting back to together.

Focus on reading into the situation before you act on emotions alone. You can read more about this here.

This is all too common, and you don’t need to make that mistake. It is much better to take your time getting a feel for the situation before you act.

So what should you do to make sure? Simple.

Back off a little, and play hard to get. Don’t show that you’re desperate and give your ex  just enough so that they know you’re interested. Give them time to ask you out, but don’t jump on any ol’ opportunity to be with him/her. This is the best thing you could do because it will help protect you from getting hurt if your ex is not really interested.

This is just the first step in getting back though. It’s important you have a plan when trying to get back with your ex. The video we talked about earlier is a good start.

We wish you the best

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Dealing with a break up is tough. There are sleepless nights and a lot of thinking about the past. You  might be thinking, is there a way I can get back with my ex?

Well, you are not alone. The good news is there are plenty of “hopeless” couples who have gotten back together when all things seem impossible. I’ve put together a guide of essential steps for winning back your ex.

Before you read it though, watch this quick video.

It’s about 9 minutes long, and a little slow at the beginning, but when you’re done watching it you’ll have a much better idea of how to deal with a breakup. Click here to watch the video.

Don’t be desperate.

If you ARE desperate, don’t show it. You need to play it cool – and back off. But don’t lose sight of your goal of winning back the heart of your ex. This is so important that if you only learn one thing from this article that would be it – and that’s what you’ll learn from this video.

Give Some Room

If you keep calling or texting your ex, please stop. If you chase your ex-love, he/she will feel suffocated and will drift even further away from you. See why this is true here. Having said that, don’t follow him/her and don’t have your friends keep tabs on them either.

Socialize

This is going to seem against your natural tendencies, but one of the best things you can do is spend time with other friends and family. Be willing to accept their help and advice they may offer. The worst thing you can possibly do (and this is what you’re going to want to do) is isolate yourself from others and spend time wallowing in your sorrow. If you do this, you will spend your time crying, feeling hopeless for yourself, thinking about how much you miss your lover and how much you want to get back

Consider Your Options

After you’ve gotten advice from your friends and family, take some time to think about what they’ve said. There will be a lot of options now that you have taken some time away to think about the whole situation. Do you still feel the same way you did when you broke up? At first you really wanted to get back together – after taking a break is that clearly what you want?

Maybe talking to your friends and family has brought up some hard truths about your relationship that you didn’t notice before. Maybe you have some doubts as to whether or not the relationship was even right at all. But maybe you still feel the same way, and maybe your feelings are even stronger. Whatever you may feel make sure you know what you want before you make your next move.

Contacting Your Ex

At this point you have a better idea of what you want, what went wrong in the relationship and what you can do to make things better. Contacting your ex is a crucial part of winning your ex back , so you have to know exactly what to do before you make this next move.

The best way to do this is through a written letter – not texting or email or a voicemail. For instructions on what to say in this letter, take a look at the video on this page.

Winning your ex back might seem impossible, but don’t worry. There is always hope. And don’t worry, you’ll be fine.

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So, you’re probably wondering: Are there ‘magic’ words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls? What? You weren’t thinking that? But now you are right? Well, believe it or not, there are certain things you can say that will pretty much cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.

So the golden question is: “How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”

But before we begin, we should point something out. If you use this technique alone, without an ‘overall’ plan or strategy…you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call. You must always have some kind of plan, and if you don’t, you’re shooting into the dark. Let’s begin.

What not to say

Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what message almost never works, and worse, puts you in an awful ‘psychological’ position.

These usually fall into 2 categories:

The Plead - Where the message sounds like; “John, please, please call me. This is the 3^rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”

And

The Emergency: “Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”

These are both obviously not the way to get someone to call you back. Can you see why? Yet there are so many people who still do this type of stuff.

How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage

Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are

1.       Curiosity

2.       Self Interest

And here’s the big secret. When you combine the two, you have a recipe that will literally work magic. Let’s see what you can say that works nearly every time.

Ahem –in a friendly tone:

“Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”

Can you see how that uses both curiosity and self interest to your advantage? John will not be able to resist calling you back. “What did I do?” he will say. “What does he appreciate so much?” he will be thinking. Not only that, he feels good because it is a POSITIVE message.

Now, before you call, you need to do the setup – that is – what you plan on saying when he calls you back.

What you’re thanking him for. It can be a small thing, but it needs to be plausible. For instance: “I learned a lot about myself that I didn’t realize before we separated and I want to thank you for it.” Remember, you have to be sincere. You just can’t make something up here, this has got to be legit, if you know what I mean.

But more importantly, make SURE you have an underlying strategy before you call. Check out this free video here before you do anything. The video is a good starting point, and the book is well worth it – to read my review of the system and how it saved my relationship click here.

If you use this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back, you can do more damage than good if you don’t handle it right. So PLEASE, have a plan.

Remember this: What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is more important than getting them to return your call.

Got it?

You’ll be fine kid

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P.S. Again, you can see that video here. Just scroll down a little bit – it’s near the top.